I am a naturally cynical person. I can't stand people who spend their whole time moaning and yet, I am fairly certain that most people would identify me as a prize whinge bag. There is a negative side to everything and I am a top-grade professional when it comes to finding it. And so, it might seem that I am ungrateful for what I have.
And that's a real shame because, honestly, I am not. If anything, I am so grateful for what I do have that I feel a little disappointed when I see situations where people are not getting it.
But the state of being constantly aggrieved is not a great one and does not make for a happy existence. Appreciating what we have can seem a pointless task and is certainly made harder the more shit we're dealt, but a wealth of psychological research suggests that thinking positively really does improve our mental well-being. And so, to end an entire month's worth of blogs, here's a list of things I really do appreciate.
- My family
My Mum, my Dad, my sister, my grandparents: they are all wonderful. I have an endless number of hilarious memories and, whenever I'm in trouble, I know that one of them is on the other end of the phone. I really truly love them and, when I see other people's relationships with their families, I realise just how lucky I am.
- And others...There's a very special girl who spends enough time in my house to be an extension of my family and, without her, I really do not know where I would be.
- My job
It's not how I'd envisaged spending my twenties, but then, I never really had any sort of vision. Despite that, I work in a beautiful place, surrounded by the most hilarious children I have ever met and working alongside the most caring, passionate colleagues. We do a good job and for that I am grateful.
Where would we be without music? It fills every silence, sympathises with the shit and provides us with a means to celebrate the good. It has given me opportunities to meet some very special people, do some incredible things and remains something that I can call mine.
I am unashamed to be a nerd and I cannot imagine a life that didn't involve being surrounded by millions of words, each perfectly arranged to form wonderful places, beautiful people and the most awesome adventures.
Every day, I drive the countryside, watching the environment change before my very eyes and I feel oh, so very lucky to be surrounded by a world that just takes care of itself. My life is beautiful and I didn't have to do anything at all to make it so. That is truly wonderful.
And last but not least, I am glad to be alive. I am grateful that I am still here, still healthy and still very much full of life. More than anything, I appreciate each day just for existing and respect everything I do and do not like about myself because heck, at least there's something there at all.
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